Lately you’ve been popping up in my dreams again. It’s never a dream where we get back together, but one where we’re friends – well, sort of. The first time it happened, I thought it was my hormones getting all out of wack, and I was ready for the tears, but they never came. Instead, there was just an aching. It’s hard to tell if it’s due to my seemingly everlasting hope that someday the timing will be right, or if it’s just me missing the one person that I used to share everything with. Neither one of those feel particularly good, but the former is more bearable (and easier to kill with logic) than the latter.
I wish I could say that time erased my thoughts of you, but I’m a terrible liar, as you know. I can’t honestly think of a day where you haven’t crossed my mind in some way. A familiar song, a random memory, a dream. And with each day forward, I feel like I conquer that ache slightly. I was finally able to listen to Childish Gambino and Jon Bellion. And though that’s certainly a feat, the weight of what’s missing, of you, is palpable.
Even after we parted ways, I’d come to you with a rant about my day, or a triumph, or just the mundane activities of life, knowing that you’d listen. You were one of the only people outside of my classmates that understood the work I was doing – eager to hear and learn. I long for that ease of understanding, and of conversation.
And of course I can’t help but think about whether or not I ever pop into your head. I know that I can’t think about college without coming across a memory of you, and I often hope the same happens to you. But I wonder if you’d know me anymore; if I matter anymore. I’d be lying if I said that I never want to be with you again, because I’d take it all back in a heartbeat. Even more than that, though, I miss my best friend and there’s no getting that back. Maybe one day I’ll find the courage to send you one final letter to permanently close this chapter, but for now I wait – acknowledging these feelings and validating them and then moving forward step-by-step.